Sometimes the only thing that we can change about the problem is our attitude about the problem. But the Al-Anon program taught me to take a hard look at myself and the part that I was playing in contributing to the family problem. When this was done, I came to the conclusion that I needed to change --and change sometimes requires courage.
One thing I changed was I stopped lying about and covering up the situation. For the first time in my life I was able to talk about what was really going on in my life. In Al-Anon, I found a safe place to do so.
I found out that I was not alone; amazingly there were others, many others, who had been down the same paths I had walked. As I listened to their stories, I began to draw from their experience, strength and hope. But I will never forget how I felt when I first walked into that room. I felt that I had finally found a group that "understood as perhaps few others can" what I was going through.
Elephant in the Living Room:
It seems it would be hard to ignore, but many alcoholic and
dysfunctional families do it all the time!
A Family Disease:
All members of the alcoholic family must take
responsibility for their own attitudes.
Many times when family and friends
try to "help" alcoholics, they are actually making it easier for them
to continue in the progression of the disease.
Are You Enabling an Alcoholic?
These questions are designed to help you decide whether or not your actions and reactions to the alcoholic might be enabling.